Ghosts from the Past...

This is a small world and even smaller city. Sometimes you run into people that are no longer in your life. Whatever the reason may be you don't have any dealings with them what so ever. I'm not the type to hold a grudge or try to start a bunch of mess. I know people think that time heals all wounds. Its not true at all. Time heals the pain but it doesn't take away the memory of whatever happened. You can always forgive but never forget how things went down. You have to forgive that person for whatever he or she did to you. But its not for their sake its for yours. You forgive so you can move on and have your power back. It takes a lot of energy to be negative. I was raised with good manner's and a simple apology is the best way to show that. That doesn't mean we will be the best of friends again or close again. It just means I see you and hear you. That means when we see each other we may speak. This rarely happens when someone has done you wrong. They think they are in the right. Everything you put out comes back to you. There is a reaction to every action that you do. The golden rule applies to all parts of life. Treat people how you want to be treated. Respect is the best thing you can give a person other than love.  You attract what you put out...

Relaxing

I have not wrote in my blog for a few days.. I have been resting and will return tomorrow....I hope everyone is enjoying the long weekend...

Going Against The Grain

With all my friends and people that I know its the same. People are not using condoms and they don't care for them. What the hell is going on with this and why is it happening? Out of all the guys I know not many of them are using protection. Most of them claim it doesn't feel right with a condom.. They were made to protect you and that's the reason they were made. I always use them and don't get why so many people don't. Also the Hetro's don't use them either. All these babies popping up here and there. I feel for woman they can have the asshole's baby. I can just walk away and not have to see him ever again. You have a baby by that asshole and you have to deal with him for the rest of your life. I'm going against the grain and I'm fine with that. Someone I  Know doesn't use condoms and likes to have sex with strangers. That's a recipe for disaster if you ask me. With HIV on the rise and people seeming like they don't care. Some believe in the super gene that they can't get the virus. There is an old country saying it goes like this"Those that give it away have something to give away". With whores running the streets and watching the bareback porn. It makes them want to do that porno shit.

Life as we know it in the Black Community

First off this won't be the last time that I will speak on this subject. I have a lifetime of being a Black boy then becoming a Black Man in America. The black community has a lot to get right. Some of us may grow up in the ghetto some not still we are are all the same. We need to come together and stop thinking we are better than each other. Just because you have a good job or a house doesn't make you better. That Lexus or Mercedes or whatever kind of car you drive doesn't make you better. Those are just material things its what's inside that counts. After what we have been through in this country we should be united. We are our own worse enemy and its sad to say. Just because you go to church every Sunday and go to bible study. It doesn't make you better at all.

You see other races band together we have Asians that own all the liquor stores and hair stores. They are getting richer off of what they don't even use or need. This has to change. Kids need to be taught how to speak proper English. These young kids need to be told to go to school and stay in school. Pull your damn pants up and get some clothes in your actual sizes. These young ladies need to put some clothes on and stay in school. You can make it out of the hood but not as just a rapper or ball player. Go to school and get a good job so your life will be easier to live. We have a lot backwards ways of doing things and they need to change. If your on Welfare you should only be on it until you get on your feet. Not a lifetime of being on it. If that's the case it should be taken away from you. Girls need to not just want to lay on their backs and make babies just to get that check. New laws need to be made for those who are getting over. Everyone should have to work for the things that they have...Most of these issues are not just black issues but its for everyone.....We have to do better......

The Perfect Family?

No family is perfect even though some act like they are. All families have their drama and black sheep and such in the family. Your family is like your co-workers.. You don't have to like them but you have to deal with them daily. They are your second family if you like it or not. With family you don't have to like them but you love them on some level. Just because they are family doesn't mean you have to be close to them. You make the best of things with the family members you get along with. Those you don't have to see don't really matter. If your family is close that can be a good thing or bad. Most of us are smart and move far far away. We get the family gossip through a phone call. Still the is even too much if you know what I mean. A visit is nice but after the first few days. You realize why you moved away.

A Day At The Bank...

Again before I start I have to say these are true events. I don't make shit up.. If I'm writing a fictional  story that is one thing..Some of you have heard me tell this story before that know me. I was in the bank one day waiting in line to make some deposits. It was busy and the line was long. In front of me was a woman and little boy. The little boy was acting out and not behaving. Screaming and running around and the mom was not having any of it. The mom said to the little boy that if you don't behave, I will tell Grandma and you won't get to go to Disneyland. Well that little boy wasn't having any of that bullshit. He then looked his mom dead in her eye and said " Fine if you tell Grandma I was being bad. I will tell Grandma you had your mouth on Daddy's pee pee. The little boy was about four or five years old. The woman was shut down by her child in the Bank. She turned so red even I was embarrassed for her. Kids are innocent and they tell it like it is. Make sure you lock the door next time you get freaky lady.. I'm sure that the little boy had a  fun time at Disneyland.. I'm just saying....

A Perfect Life? or Hell on Earth?

If the Christians, Mormons, Jehovah's Witnesses all had their way. No one would have any sex before they were married. They would not even know what sex is until their wedding night. Everyone would remain virgin's until they got married. There would be no Lotto or gambling at all. Sunday church and Bible study would be mandatory. I'm sure if you didn't go to church it would be against the law. No kinky sex other than missionary sex would be allowed. Even in the privacy of your own home. Women would be made to be behind the man as far as work goes and at home. The men would be in control like they are in the real world. Witch hunts would a normal thing if you didn't act they way everyone else acted. At any hardships in life you would start to quote the bible. Kids would not be allowed to be themselves. Curfews would set and the sidewalks would be rolled up at five. Women would have to dress the way that society would want. More laws would be passed and Women would have to obey. Sounds scary doesn't it? Its a good thing that most people are smart enough not to fall for the brainwashing. Its one thing to believe in God. Its another to live by the rules that some old men made up.

Amnesia or Fake?

So I was out and about yesterday and I saw someone I know. Of course being the good southern boy I am I said hello. He of course acted like he didn't know who I was. You know that saying always be a gentleman. Because you never know who you will see and this is a small small world. It seems to be the way around the Bay Area. I don't get why people act like they don't know who you are. I guess you get to see how people really act. True color's always come out. Its not like we even dated we just hung out a few times. Still its a lesson learned that all people are not genuine. I can't make people act the way they should act. I can only be myself and hope people that come around are the same. Always be on your best you can be... If not you will just look like an idiot...

The Adventures of Pookie..

So Pookie had this friend named Crystal.. She was this skanky girl that she went to school with and was friends.She went to  middle school and high school with her. She ended up having a baby very young.. I did say she was a skank didn't I? She also was a stripper. I knew her from seeing her hang out with Pookie throughout the years. Well After high school they still were friends. Well one night Crystal invited Pookie to a party and she went thinking it was a regular old party. She got there with Crystal and things were normal for an hour. Crystal then disappeared and Pookie went to go find her and BAM. She walk's into the back room and Crystal is being worked on by some carpet munchers. Her upper and lower regions. She looked up at Pookie and said I have always had a crush on you. Pookie is strictly dickly if your wondering. The carpet munchers then turned their attention to Pookie chasing her through the house. Trying to get her goodies. Pookie ran to the bathroom and locked herself inside. She then called 911 for immediate assistance. Well after the Police came and rescued her. She learned that just because you grow up with somebody as a friend doesn't mean you really know them. Or will continue to be close like you were when you were kids. That was the end of her friendship with the skanky carpet munching stripper named Cyrstal.

Addiction

Its a sad fact but many people have bad Addictions. I'm sure all of us know someone close to us. A family member or close friend that has lost it all. Hit rock bottom and still they keep on going with the Addiction. It takes some people just one time to kick a bad addiction. But some people have a tougher time at it. I have a close friend that lost everything. Me and another close friend saw all the signs coming and sadly it happened. I have a family member that is homeless from Addiction. He is finally in rehab getting some help but will it help? or will he walk away from rehab and be back on the street. Its hard when you see someone close to you on a downward spiral. You can't help someone no matter how much you try. If they don't want any help they won't accept the help at all.

People are so judgemental of homeless people on the street. We all are people and some handle things better than others. People on the streets still deserve respect and to be treated like human beings. I saw a homeless man the other night when it was raining. I took him a bunch of food and handed it to him. He looked surprised and he said to me that I didn't have to do it. I said I know I don't but I'm the type of person that will do what I can. Don't get me wrong I'm not going to be giving out any money. I will buy you some food and a drink. I will put it out in the universe for you to get off the street and get your life back. Addiction is the pink elephant in the room no one wants to talk about. That uncle or aunt when you were a kid that was always drunk on that fire water. Or that step father or mother that was also on that fire water. Some  Addictions are not as bad as those I mentioned but they are bad for you. Over eating or working out too much is also an Addiction.. Do you help your fellow man? Or do you just keep walking? I know that the homeless people here are very aggressive. Still you don't have to help every single one you see. Just when you feel you should. Its the thought that counts and its good karma to be a good person inside and out...Life is hard enough but still we all can do a small part to make things better.

Do you stay or Go?

If your in a bad situation do you stay or go? Love is one thing but can one live off of love? The answer is no you can't.. It takes a lot more than love to survive in a relationship.. I know  some people who will remain nameless but I will tell their stories.. One is in a relationship with a much older man and they don't have any sex what so ever. But he stays because he says he loves him. In the meantime he is unhappy and looking for a connection with someone. A nice passionate encounter would be ideal but... He is committed to his Husband. So he is kinda stuck which is sad. He should be happy right? Yes he should. We all deserve to be happy don't we? Yes we do, every relationship has it's ups and downs. Its suppose to be you and your mate against the world. But when Side Line Ho's step into the picture it makes things harder for you. Things would be much better if we all were honest with each other. But that's part of the game isn't it? If its that time to leave then leave. I know a lot of people who stay together for the kids sake. Just leave the kids will be hurt but ok. A loveless relationship is a recipe for disaster.

 Do you stay if he cheats? Hell to the NO you don't run fast. A man or woman for that matter will only do what you allow them to do. As I said in another Post ladies don't be dumb and let the man control you. Get a job or go to school. If someone is violent with you its time to go. It only takes once that should be enough for you to see. If you stay you deserve what you get. Don't be a damn fool and stay. People's true colors always end up showing in the end. No Dick or Pussy is worth any of that drama. Yes this is real talk and I use those words. I give it to you 100% real and always will. Sometimes it takes someone many years to get out but some do get out. Don't be one of those battered women. Walk out don't leave in a Pine Box.

Alive or Living?

This is a question a lot of people can't answer. Many people don't know who they are and they are just alive. Are you one of them? I'm living life and enjoying it. I know just who I am, it makes it easier to deal with what life will throw your way. One of the key's to life its to know thy self. Love yourself and work with what you have. No one is perfect and those who think they are have major issues. Being alive is just that your breathing and still here but not present. What are you doing in your life? What do you bring to those around you? Are you a positive person or a negative person? These are the questions you need to ask yourself. Are you happy? if not why not? You don't need a man or woman to define who you are. They just enhance what is already there. Its true love will change you and make you a better person if your loved right. Even if your loved wrong its still a lesson learned. Are you living or simply alive?

In your face Racism

Ok I'm not a fan of Donald Trump at all.. He has shown his true colors. A racist man attacking President Barak Obama. He is not winning over people at all. On his show Celebrity Apprentice no one of color has ever won. Its all white all the way, don't get me wrong nothing is wrong with someone white winning. I have a problem when no one else has ever won of color. He is but one example of in your face racism. Sarah Palin is another racist that is your face with it and she doesn't care. I'm shocked that people actually like this dumb woman. She opens her mouth and nothing but hot air comes out. She give hate with a little bit of razzle dazzle. People need to do better and they know it. Of course some people believe that racism doesn't exist because they have never experienced it. I can say as a black man it does and anyone of color has experienced it on some level. Being a black man is one of the hardest thing to be in America. I'm proud to be a black man.. Hootie Hooooo! People need to get over this racism and learn that we are all on this ball of dirt and water together....

Fairy Tales are just that Fairy Tales

 Women and some Men have this fairy tale complex like its the 1940. In this time and age if your a grown ass person. You should have a job and be working. I don't know why women grow up wanting to just be a wife. Usually they end up with nothing with their men being in control. No job means no money and means the man is in control of the finances. I can understand wanting to have kids but this one person working is just bullshit.. Talk about being brainwashed..A lot of men want the woman to be dependent on them. I hope women will start being smart and having a job or going to school to have a job. Some of these men are assholes and want the woman to be kept down. Its ok to have both don't fall into the trap...

It all starts in Church

Well Blogger was down yesterday glad its finally Friday. I want to talk about one of the aspects of the black community. The way that we are taught from the time we are little going to Church. That's where the brainwashing starts and that is where it continues. People put these men and women on a level where they think they are better. We are all the same if we choose to believe in God or not. People try to shove their brainwashed beliefs down everyone's throats. You don't have to give anything but praise to God. One of the brainwashing things that was made up was to give 10% of your earnings to the Church. One of many dumb rules the mindless sheep live by. Another is no sex before you get married. I should say its in all the Christian Churches not just the black ones. You can't pay your way to get into heaven. People act like the bible is the law and its not. Its just a book that was created to control the masses. After all these years its still working on those who believe in it. No kids out of wedlock is another dumb rule by the brainwashed sheep.. I don't believe in anything that would keep you from being yourself and restricting yourself to what your going to do anyway. That is live your life and be happy. Don't get me wrong I grew up going to Church. I do believe in God. I just don't believe in Organized Religion its pure evil. Like my grandmother says"They talk about the devil getting you when there is a demon in a Church hat welcoming you to Church" Plenty of demon's sitting right next to you in Church. There are fundamental things that people should know to do on their own.. Be a good person and live your life to the fullest. Be happy treat others how you want to be treated. People are so fast to judge and talk about people when their lives are shot to hell..Your relationship with God is between you and God. No one else exist on that plain of existence. You don't have to go to Church to be close to God. I say the very religious people are the ones you have to watch out for. They are the ones doing all the dirt then quick to turn on you. Those are the ones that kill Abortion doctor's and say its God's work... They have a scam going and its working. Get people to come to your Church and give you money. I think all churches should be taxed on the money they get from the sheep. Maybe that would stop most of them from being so full of hate... But then again that is only wishful thinking on my part... It all starts in Church...

Breaking the Bubble..

If I could go to every school and talk to all the kids there. I would and let them know that if your gay or not being teased.. Its something that we all go through but... Its just a bubble that will pop when school is over.. As a gay man or woman we go through a second puberty. People tease you for things you have no control over. Like your looks or how much money your parent or parents make. We all go through it and it makes us tougher and it prepares you for the real world. It does get easier that is true but it also remains hard. There are people that will hate just to hate. Those people that were popular in school don't remain that way. The Universe has a way of bringing down its wrath on all of us. That deserve it Karma in its true form. We all know the saying "You get what you put out" and its very true..So if your in school and being bullied just remember this. In a few years you will blossom and those bullies will discover. That they are just like everyone else and we all live here together. I was a nerd in school complete with the glasses. You know the ugly duckling turns into a swan in the end. As Gay Pride gets closer I have to think. I celebrate Pride every day of the year. I'm happy when someone else comes out into the light. We come from all over the world and we were here in the beginning and we will be here in the end. Stand tall and be who you were born to be...When you go to your high school reunion if you choose to do so. You will see some unhappy people with boring lives. You will be the one that shines because you know who you are. Breaking the bubble

No Strings Attatched

What is up with everyone being so disconnected? What happened to all the strings? Can someone tell me.. I know we live in a digital age and we have our smart phones, computers and all the websites and apps.. But people come on its the way we were made. I have no problem with being a savvy person with tech.. I'm a nerd and proud of it.. I see people asking for things in ads they place online. That they should be getting in a relationship.. I think something is wrong when you see people saying they don't want any strings attached. But they want someone to come over and cuddle WTH? I'm the opposite of this NSA bullshit.. I want the strings and all that comes with it.. I'm old fashioned in a fast paced world.. It also doesn't help that just about every guy out there. Not all men but mostly all of them are whores...You heard the old saying "Those that give it away have something to give away" Its an old Southern saying...

The Adventures of Pookie..

These stories are true and not made up.. They sound crazy but crazier things have happened... These are the stories of Pookie... a.k.a. my sister.. That's her childhood nickname... So here is one of those crazy stories.. My sister was walking down the street on a nice sunny day.. She dropped something and bent down to pick it up...The next thing you hear is a loud crash. A car had crashed into a light pole and was messed up.. The cause was my sister's ka-dunk a dunk ass.. She has the kind of ass you can sit a plate and a cup on. I guess the driver saw her and could not control himself. She caused a car accident with her ass. She wasn't even in a car to do it.. We still laugh about it to this day..

A nice day in the neighborhood

So I wasn't really in the mood to go out last night after work. But I did go out with my friend visiting from London. I also met up with some other friends.. Isn't it good when you see someone you haven't seen in a long time? And you get them to talk to the cute guy that they have been watching from across the room. I was a good boy as always and was home and in bed at 1am....I can't believe all the crimes happening around the lovely city of San Francisco. People being beat up and put in headlock's so the thugs can go through their pockets. People are also stealing cell phones so be careful.. I'm always looking around to see who is around me if I'm getting my phone or whatever I'm doing. I will kick some ass if I have to...

Its Monday today.. Pfft..

This is my first post on my blog. I have always wanted to do this now here I am... I had a great weekend nothing too special. I found a Costco and went there on Saturday and I saw Thor in IMAX 3D.. It was better than I expected it to be... I always feel the weekend's are too short.. I haven't watched Celebrity Apprentice yet but I have heard that Nene Leakes has left the show. She was ready to whoop up on Star's ass and pull her wig off. Star is not innocent and she knows what she is doing. I would not be surprised if Star won the show.. On the the next.... I'm so sick of hearing about Sarah Palin's racist ass.. Can she please go somewhere and sit down.. She is the in your face kind of racist.. She told that heffa Doctor Laura to stand her ground after she used the N word 19 times in two minutes.. People actually like this woman.. Something is seriously wrong with you if you like this woman. She is clueless and she wants to be  the next President of the United States. I doubt she will win but if she did this Country is doomed..